Have you hit your 40s or 50s and feel like life suddenly got incredibly overwhelming, but none of your usual tools are working any more?
Maybe you are forgetting important work meetings, losing your keys constantly, or staring at your to-do list feeling totally frozen. If you have ADHD—or think you might—this isn’t your fault. You aren’t failing.
You may be experiencing the connection between ADHD and perimenopause. It can make even the most capable woman feel completely disconnected from who she is, left trying to navigate daily life with a brain that suddenly feels entirely unfamiliar.
The Brain Science (Made Simple)
Estrogen influences how your brain uses dopamine, a chemical messenger involved in focus, organization, and managing emotions.
During perimenopause, estrogen levels fluctuate and gradually decline. For some people with ADHD, these hormonal changes can make attention and emotional regulation more difficult. The coping tricks that helped you succeed in your life for years can suddenly feel less effective.
How Counselling Helps You Feel Like Yourself Again
When you are managing a busy life, career and family, you don’t have to navigate this transition alone. Counselling can give you practical tools to feel more supported in daily life.
Two Chairs Counselling can help you through this next chapter with some of the following:
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): CBT is a practical style of therapy. We use it to help you catch negative thoughts (like “I’m bad at my job now”) and break down overwhelming tasks into tiny, manageable steps.
- Stopping the Shame: We help you understand that brain fog and difficulties with focus are not personal flaws, and explore what may be contributing to them.
- Setting Boundaries: Learn how to say “no” to extra projects at work or home without feeling guilty.
- New Routines for a Changing Brain: Together, we can work on creating flexible, low-energy habits that work for your brain right now, not ten years ago.
Take the First Step Back to You
You do not have to struggle through the chronic overwhelm. With the right support, it is possible to feel clearer, more confident, and more like yourself again.
Two Chairs Counselling is here to help you build a clear, step-by-step path to a place of calm and balance.